Mobile Homecoming presents

Loveship

Alexis and Sangodare are drawing from the wisdom of their elders, 16 years in romantic partnership and their own spiritual practice to offer lgbtqi/sgl people committed to long term love a place to grow together. Loveship is a term that comes to us from L.A. area family Iyanifa Ifalade and Queen Hollins.

WHO

FOR LOVESHIPS - Currently, our Loveship programming is for two lgbtqi/sgl/queer people who have decided to be in a long term romantic or non-romantic committed relationship or partnership. We are prioritizing partnerships where both of the folks in the relationship self-identify as a person of color. Events and programming that also have access for people who do not identify as BIPOC or people of color will be stated clearly. This space is for people who are able to commit to a 3-hour introductory webinar, a one hour videochat with Alexis & Sangodare and peer support for one hour a week for four weeks where we get to practice the tools offered in the webinar. We have space for four Loveships and will open a Love on Deck list to gauge the additional desire (details below).

To be clear, this space is not for Loveships on the verge of a break (sinking ships?) but instead for Loveships which, like all relationships, may have challenges, need maintenance or just want more community for their Loveship. Most importantly this space is for Loveships which are committed to making a powerful difference in community and on the planet. With the tools and practices that we share with you we know that as a fleet we can be powerful transformation agents for the world.

Those who attend will be invited to upcoming Loveship Retreats in Durham, NC and Anguilla, W.I. (in the Eastern Caribbean). Maintaining a standard of safety including traveling as it feels appropriate to do so.

FOR LOVEBIRDS - The Lovebird program is for people who actively intend to be in a Loveship partnership and are not currently actualizing that reality with another person. This space is for queer people of color (QBIPOC, BIPOC LGBTQIA people) who have decided to prepare themselves to be in a long term romantic committed relationship or other form of committed long term partnership. The Lovebird will also need to be able to commit to a 3-hour introductory webinar, a one hour small group videochat with Alexis & Sangodare and peer accountability for 30 minutes a week for two to four weeks to practice the tools and techniques offered in the webinar. We have space for twenty Lovebirds and will open a waiting list (aka Love on Deck list) to gauge the additional desire beyond that.

To be clear, this space is for people who are ready, able and willing to stretch and grow but have already come to a (self-determined) manageable level of balance around past relationships and trauma. We say this because this resource is not a substitute nor supplement to therapy. It is for those who feel that loveship and partnership are a powerful vehicle for actualizing divine purpose and have already begun a journey toward that end. With the tools and practices that we share together we will be a powerful love-filled flock of lovebirds as we actualize our divine partner(s).

NOTE: We do not guarantee that you will find a partner by participating in this journey. However, we do guarantee that you will get tools that you can use to that end. The tools work best if you work them.

WHEN

LOVESHIPS - In the flow of our 11th Loveship anniversary we launched the Loveship program. Now, in our 13th couple anniversary we get to offer something back to our community again. We love that we get to share some of the tools that have made our relationship be a place of nurturance, peace and growth for its own sake. In addition, we want to share resources in order to generate more Loveship community on the planet as we all continue to grow and specifically have support for our particular Loveship. 

The Cohort Process will be for 4 loveships (of two people each) and the following five videochats (which happen over the course of the month) will last approximately one hour.

Sunday, October ??? (4-7pm)
Webinar with cohort facilitated by Alexis and Sangodare

October ??? (individually scheduled with each Loveship)
Videochat with Alexis and Sangodare where supportive listening is practiced

October ??? - October ???, New Moon to Full Moon
(4) Videochats - Practice space with another loveship and Alexis and Sangodare

October ??? (4-7pm) - Full Moon
Culminating Session

Friday, Dec ??? - Sunday, Dec ???
Opening Webinar (Dec ??? 4-7pm EST)
1-on-1 session with Alexis & Sangodare (Dec ???-Dec ???, 1hr)
(4) Sessions with another Loveship (Dec ???-Dec ???)
The Closing Ceremony (Jan ??? 4-7pm eastern)

LOVEBIRDS - This space is for Lovebirds, people pursuing Loveship/partnership but not currently in a relationship and will be for 8-16 individuals. There will be a webinar and the following videochat will be for 1 hour, a small group webinar with Alexis & Sangodare and finally four videochats will be for 30mins with another Lovebird where you will offer a space for mutual accountability facilitated by our materials.

Sun, October 20th - Tues, October 29th
Opening Webinar is 4-7pm EST (10/20/19)
Follow-Up with Alexis & Sangodare (small groups to be scheduled with each Lovebird)
Practice Sessions (2) with accountability buddy (to be scheduled with your buddy 10/22 - 10/28)
Closing Ceremony is 6:30-8:30pm EST(10/29/19)

TO BE DETERMINED

OFFERING

Money is not the only thing that gives loveships access to this space. Also, we believe that those who join this space all have a responsibility to contribute to its sustenance. Alexis and Sangodare are contributing time, materials, tools they have gathered, lessons they have learned, the counsel and wisdom of their elders when needed during the process and years of facilitation experience. They will not also be fundraising. We all have the opportunity to contribute. We contribute our time, experience, patience, money, commitment, wisdom and grace. At the same time that we want to make this space accessible to community, we also want to make it accessible for Alexis and Sangodare to create and sustain it for community.

Still, others of us who cannot attend have the opportunity to contribute to the ongoing existence of this space by joining the Love on Deck and donating $38. As a part of the Love on Deck we will reach out to you first for updates on programming and Loveship/Lovebird resources. You will get the pre-orientation video Alexis and Sangodare have create about their first decade in Loveship and priority to sign up for the upcoming cohorts. This will also help us measure our community’s desire for this space and plan accordingly.

COMPLETED - Loveship Co-hort #1: September 22- October 27 (FULL)
Webinar, Follow-up and (4) four practice chats.

SCHEDULING NOW Loveship Co-hort #2: October ??? - October ???
Webinar, APG & Sango Follow-up, (4) four practice chats and Closing Ceremony. $1000

COMPLETED - Lovebird Co-horts
Webinar, Small group follow-up, 4 practice chats and Closing Ceremony. $125

Love on Deck
Loveship Pre-Orientation Video,  Priority for Information about upcoming Co-hort openings - $38

NOTE: If the dates don't work for you, you don't want to make the financial investment at this time or whatever the reason; we strongly recommend that you join the waitlist. We think of this list as a way for people to sow a seed in the continuation of this programming and as an active communication of their commitment to what we are trying to accomplish more broadly. Put another way, if you don’t sign up for this actual Cohorts and participate (for whatever reason) this is a way we still know it is valuable enough for us to keep doing it.

Love on Deck

Loveship Pre-Orientation Video,  Priority for Information about upcoming Co-hort openings - $38

As a part of the love on deck we will reach out to you first for updates on programming and Loveship/Lovebird resources. You will get the pre-orientation video Alexis and Sangodare have created about their first decade in loveship and priority to sign up for the upcoming cohorts. This will also help us measure our community’s desire for this space and plan accordingly.

NOTE: If the dates don't work for you, you don't want to make the financial investment at this time or whatever the reason; we strongly recommend that you join the Love on deck. We think of this list as a way for people to sow a seed in the continuation of this programming and other Loveship & Lovebird resources (like literature, meditations, outings, etc.) and as an active communication of their commitment to what we are trying to accomplish more broadly. 

Self-Guided Offerings

******IN THE WORKS FOR OCTOBER 2021 - DETAILS COMING SOON******

Retreats

******FEBRUARY 2021 - DETAILS COMING SOON******

Loveship Playdate Webinars

In this Loveship Playdate we will delve deeply and playfully into the Loveship Paradigm. The Playdates are a way to introduce the Loveship Paradigm to couples through facilitated activities. The theme of each playdate is unique. So, you can attend as many as you like. Each Loveship Playdate is an opportunity for us to be in community with one another, growing as Loveships and as a collective of Loveships across the world. If you have not attended a webinar in the past, please be encouraged. The love really does flow as we gather, share and affirm one another online. In this 2-3hr online playdate (aka webinar) we begin the work of practicing Love as a collective of queer romantic partnerships.

The Loveship Paradigm taps into the truth we find in June Jordan's words - Love is Lifeforce - and shares the tools to unfold Love in practice robustly throughout the world by sharing relationship tools.

We are so excited to share with you what our elders, teachers and experience has provided us. We get the greatest joy out of holding space for other Queer Loveships and witnessing you as you apply the principles and use the tools with such sweetness and genius!

Logistic Notes: We use the zoom platform. Once you register and deposit on eventbrite, you will receive an email from us about next steps. One registration covers two partners in a Loveship.

Graduates of our 4 week Loveship cohort program receive a 50% discount.
To learn more visit mobilehomecoming.org/playdates-symposiums and/or email us at mobilehomecoming@gmail.com.

For your reference here are the dates for all of the Loveship Playdates

TBD - FEBURARY 2020
$1500 Registration / $500 Deposit
for Loveships where both partners are Queer BIPOC (Black Indigenous People of Color)

MAY 16, 2020
$2000 Registration/$500 Deposit
for Loveships where both partners are Queer BIPOC (Black Indigenous People of Color)

PLEASE NOTE: Cohort graduates receive a 50% discount.
To learn more visit mobilehomecoming.org/loveship and/or email us at mobilehomecoming@gmail.com.

Loveship Symposiums

Have you ever been in a room full of Queer couples of color commited to love, justice and spiritual practice? In a space grounded in Black Feminism? This is our opportunity. The Loveship Symposiums are in person gatherings where we go deeper into the Loveship Paradigm curriculum developed by Sangodare and Alexis Pauline Gumbs. The Symposiums are an embodied practice space and playground that takes place over the course of a weekend. Here we really get a full sensory and spiritual experience of the impact of the Loveship Paradigm as we live it out in a group setting. We get to experience what it is like when Loveship multiplies and spreads. Spend a Saturday or the whole weekend having your partnership uplifted and celebrated.

We can accommodate 8 Loveships in the April Symposium.

The Loveship Paradigm taps into the truth we find in June Jordan's words - Love is Lifeforce - and shares the tools and practices we have cultivated to unfold Love in action robustly throughout the world by learning to do so with another person. Grounded in Black Feminism, this curriculum makes freedom more accessible in practice and in our partnerships.

This is a priceless investment in your partnership and the possibility of love filled relationships in our communities more broadly. In order to attend the Symposium you must have already completed the Cohort process.*

We will be in practice all day Saturday. The Friday evening and Sunday morning participation is optional but still outstanding. On Saturday we will eat together, venture out together, dance, sing, play and stretch our minds-bodies-spirits through Loveship activities led by Alexis and Sangodare. For this Symposium the theme is VISION & GROUNDING. We will be exploring and nourishing the horizons and roots that source our (practical and conceptual) visions for our Loveships (#vision) AND what it take to be present to love in each moment.

*You may attend if your Loveship has already graduated from our 4 week cohort program.

To learn more visit mobilehomecoming.org/loveship and/or email us at mobilehomecoming@gmail.com.

(NOTE: Meals included Saturday only; no accommodations provided)

For your reference here are the dates for all of the Loveship Symposiums.

START:  Grounding
Friday - Loveship group outing (6:30pm-9pm optional)
Saturday - Facilitated Activities (10am-7pm required)
Sunday - Sunday Service (11am-1pm optional)
-----(for Loveships where one partner is Queer BIPOC and the other aligned with Black Feminism)
--- Registration details… ( …registration deposit).

START: Collective Commitment
Friday - Loveship group outing (6:30pm-9pm optional)
Saturday - Facilitated Activities (10am-7pm required)
Sunday - Sunday Service (11am-1pm optional)
-----(both partners aligned with Black Feminism)
--- Registration cost details… Loveship (… registration deposit).

To learn more visit mobilehomecoming.org/playdates-symposiums and/or email us at mobilehomecoming@gmail.com.

(NOTE: All Meals included Saturday only; no accommodations provided)

Symposium FAQ

One of us in our Queer Loveship does not identify as a person of color is there a Symposium that we can register for?
If your Loveship has completed the cohort program you may register.

Both of us in our Queer Loveship identify as antiracist white folk. Is there a Symposium that we can register for?
If you have already completed a 4week cohort program you can register for the Symposiums.

Our Loveship would like to go deeper but can’t do the Cohort or Symposium at this time. Is there an ongoing program?
Yes. We facilitate approximately one Loveship Cohort a season for Queer BIPOC Loveships. This is a four week intensive. We also host playdates from time to time. To learn more about it vist http://mobilehomecoming.com/loveship

FAQ: Loveship in General

Who are the other Loveships that will be participating?

We put a call out throughout our networks and people have responded. What we have found so far is that each Loveship includes someone we know or a Loveship with whom we share a mutual friend. These are connections intended to be built inside of a broad community of support.

How did you arrive at the cost?

We calculated all the costs to create the program and events and spread it out over how many people we felt like we could accommodate.

Will the costs ever go down or will scholarships be offered?

As discussed in the "OFFERING" section we don't want to put the added job of fundraising for this space on Alexis and Sangodare at this time. As their capacity to host more people increases the costs will be shared and spread out over more people and therefore go down.

We anticipate that some supporters will step forward to support other couples to be able to participate in this space. We have already made this request. When this happens scholarships will be offered.

What if I don’t feel so comfortable sharing personal information about myself?

In our process we are mostly sharing tools. You and your partner, inside of your Loveship, get to decide what you share and what you don’t. The worksheets we provide help to facilitate you to prepare for your time with the other Loveship where you can think about these boundaries together.

Will interracial or white couples ever be able to attend?

Yes. Someday. We are prioritizing black people, indigenous people and people of color at this time but as our capacity increases we do intend to invite actively anti-racist couples to participate while we still intend to offer caucus spaces for those who prefer that as well.